What is pegging?
What is pegging?
'Pegging' describes the sexual act in which one person anally penetrates another with a strap-on dildo. The term was coined by author Dan Savage in his sex advice column, 'Savage Love,' in 2001, and was initially intended specifically for women. The word has since evolved, as words often do, to accommodate all gender identities, body shapes, and relationship types.
The allure of pegging
The reasons why people enjoy pegging are as diverse as the individuals who participate or want to participate. Physical pleasure is a major motivator for many when it comes to sex, including pegging. The anus and rectum are made up of about a billion (not literally) nerve endings that feel amazing when stimulated in the right way, which is what pegging has the power to do.
For some, the appeal of pegging comes more from the mind. In cases where a woman is penetrating a man, the role reversal can be quite exciting, allowing both parties to explore new ways of playing. The perceived power dynamic of penetrating as a dominant action and being penetrated as a submissive action can also be a turn-on for peggers and their partners, making the sexual activity commonplace in the BDSM community.
Discussing pegging with your partner
If you're interested in pegging your partner, the first step to potentially making your fantasies come true is to let them know! As with any intimate conversation, consider the timing and setting before approaching the topic.
It’s best not to bring up the subject right before or right after sexual activity. If you reveal your desire to tie your partner up right before you get started, it may lead to them immediately agreeing, while if you bring it up right after sex, it may make them feel like their performance and your sex life as a whole with them is lackluster. Instead, choose another time when the mood is not sexual.
While it may seem obvious to continue talking about how much you enjoy pegging and why you find it so arousing, make sure you leave room for your partner to share their thoughts on the matter. Discuss their concerns and answer their questions as best you can.
Whether your partner says yes, no, or may, it is imperative that you respect their decision and not pressure them to change their mind if their answer is not the one you were hoping for.
If your partner says 'no' to pegging:
Thank your partner for listening and let them know that their aversion to pegging won’t negatively impact your relationship. Sharing fantasies can be vulnerable, but it can be just as nerve-wracking to tell your lover that you’re not into a sexual act that they’re super interested in. Reassure them that you respect their boundaries and won’t entertain the idea of you hooking them up again unless they initiate the conversation.
If your partner says “yes” to pegging:
You’ll want to have an in-depth conversation about your future pegging session now to make sure everyone feels as comfortable as possible, manage expectations, and make your first time as smooth as possible. Discuss what the ideal pegging experience looks like for both of you, and ask what you can do before, during, and after.
Precautions and tips for a healthy pegging experience
We're all adults here, so I think we can admit that sex isn't without risks, especially when it comes to anal sex.
Minimizing the risk of coming into contact with feces.
No biggie: When it comes to the rectum, a lot of things happen. I mean, that’s literally what it’s there for! But you probably don’t want any of these things happening during a pegging session, and there are ways to avoid a messy situation.
The recipient should have had a bowel movement within the last 12 to 24 hours prior to play. It is important that they thoroughly clean their anal area after their last poop, this can be as simple as washing the outside with mild soap and water or as extensive as using a anal douche . Either will work, the choice really comes down to the preferences and comfort level of the participants.
If you choose to use an enema, do so at least an hour before anal play, otherwise you increase the chance of encountering stool.
Even with the best precautions, there’s no foolproof way to guarantee that feces or residue won’t end up in your playtime. If a mess or accident happens while you’re holding someone, don’t make a big deal about it. Clean up, reassure your partner that this natural bodily function won’t make them feel gross, and try again another time.
Preventing the transmission of STDs or infections during pegging
Like all forms of sexual activity, pegging can lead to the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). You can reduce that risk by taking the following actions:
Knowing the STI status of you and your partner and making medical decisions based on that information, such as taking medications like PrEP.
Using safer sex barrier methods such as condoms and dental dams on your body and any sex toys you use together.
Not sharing porous strap-on dildos with different partners or sticking only to non-porous, disinfectable dildos.
And STDs aren't the only type of infection you can get from sexual activity, which is why it's important to thoroughly clean your sex toys before and after each use.
Pain when pegging?
Pegging doesn’t have to be painful for the receiver, in fact, it shouldn’t be! Plenty of lube (that’s compatible with the materials of your strap-on dildo), patience (don’t go from 0 to 100), and a sex toy that’s the right size for the receiver’s anal experience level will keep your pegging experience healthy and pain-free.
Although it may be tempting for nervous first-timers, avoid using numbing agents that reduce sensitivity. Pain and discomfort are your body’s way of telling you to stop. Ignoring these signals because you’re not aware of them could result in injury.
Prepare your pegging session
While it is up to you and your partner to decide which intimate products you want to use, at the very least you should have a strapon and anal lubricant necessary.
Strap-on harnesses
There are two options when it comes to strap-on gear: traditional harnesses (paired with compatible dildos) or a strapless strapon .
A strap-on harness is a better option for beginner peggers, as it will keep your dildo securely in place. Obviously, you want a harness that fits your body type, so be sure to check the product's dimensions and size chart before purchasing.
The Best Traditional Strap-On Harnesses
the CalExotics Packer Gear Boxer Brief Harness is a popular and suitable harness for inners, you can place a dildo in it that meets your measurements and requirements.
Another strapon that is very popular are the strapons and dildos from Vac-U-Lock
The entire series is very popular, both the individual dildos and harnesses. They are also available in complete sets.
Strapon sets from Vac-U-Lock
Some Vac U Lock strap-on harnesses come with one or more compatible strap-on dildos. These convenient sets are known as strap-on sets and are ideal for beginners who want to quickly build their pegging sex toy collection. Strap-on sets can also appeal to those who are overwhelmed by choice and would rather spend their time strapping on the dildo than researching which individual dildo to buy.
A tip for a strapon set is definitely the Supreme Harness with Vibrating Plug and Remote Control
With this set you are completely ready, it has different sizes of dildos and a vibrating plug with remote control.
Strap-on dildos
A strap-on harness without a dildo is like a library without books, pretty much useless. The main difference between standard dildos and strap-on dildos is that strap-on dildos have a sort of flared base that allows them to be inserted into harnesses. That said, not all strap-on dildos are compatible with all strap-on harnesses, their compatibility depends on the size of the harness's o-ring or other opening and the circumference of the dildo's base.
A good example is the pegging set for beginners
As with full-length dildos, there are a wide variety of strap-on dildo styles available to suit your needs. So you have vibrating, realistic, non-presentational, small, large, hollow, firm, and curved for G-spot and P-spot stimulation, just to name a few. Pegging beginners will likely want to start with a small strap-on dildo, as they are easier for the wearer to handle and for the receiver to carry around.
So pay attention to the description to see if a dildo is suitable for a harness or look at strap-on dildos or hollow strap on dildos The advantage of a hollow strapon is that it can also be worn by men.
Start pegging
Now that you know which sex toys you need and have purchased them, the pegging can begin.
Step 1: Tie up
We’re not going to lie to you, putting on your strap-on harness and attaching your chosen dildo to it can be a little tricky as it’s not a seamless process, especially if it’s your first time doing it. You can make the whole experience a little sexier by treating your strap-on gear as a form of functional lingerie and putting it on before play so your partner doesn’t see you fumbling with your strap-on if you’re having a little trouble with it. Or practice how it works before you actually use it.
Putting on your strap-on when it’s time to get naughty can also be a turn-on and allow you both to use it during foreplay. Just think how hot it would be to pull down your pants or lift up your skirt to reveal your ready-made strap-on! You can even have your partner treat it like it’s your cock, stroking, kissing, and sucking it before he or she gets to work.
Step 2: Get excited and stretch that butt.
Foreplay, and especially anal foreplay for the receiver, is a key element of mutually satisfying pegging experiences. Pegging is not on the list of quick activities, so take your time to get both yourself and your partner aroused before engaging in full strap-on anal sex.
Keep in mind that the strap-on dildo isn't the first thing that goes into the receiver's anus. Start slowly with a well-lubricated finger and consider using it as a guide during foreplay. butt plug to wear to prepare their butthole to safely and comfortably accept larger objects.
Step 3: Penetrating and pegging
Once you’re both ready to go, you can move on to the moment you’ve been waiting for: pegging. Before you actually insert your strap-on dildo into their ass, make sure to apply a generous layer of lube to the sex toy and their anus. With your dildo and hole slick and slippery, begin to very slowly penetrate your partner’s asshole with the head of the dildo. Let the dildo sit there for a minute or two, allowing their ass to adjust to the girth of your toy. You can then continue to slide more and more of the dildo in, letting it rest again for a few moments once they’ve taken in as much as they want or plan to before doing any thrusting. When it comes to the thrusting itself, go slow and let the receiver control the depth and pace of penetration.
Pegging Tips for Beginners
You have to start slow before you can become a real pro!
TIP 1: Practice makes perfect
Wearing and carrying a strap-on can take some getting used to. You’ll likely feel more confident (and successful) in your pegging adventures if you do some solo exploration first. Try out your harness and adjust the straps to your comfort level so there are no surprises when you get down to the real thing. Try on your strap-on gear around the house and get familiar with what it feels like to wear and walk around in it. The more comfortable you are operating your strap-on alone, the more comfortable you’ll be operating it in the company of others.
TIP 2: There is no such thing as too much lube
Lubrication is essential for all forms of penetration, and since the anus doesn’t naturally produce lubricant, make sure you have plenty of store-bought lubricant for pegging sessions. Apply a generous amount of lubricant to your strap-on dildo and your partner’s anal peg, reapplying as needed.
TIP 3: Start small
There’s no shame in not starting out with a giant dildo, but you’ll want to go smaller for your first few steps. An XXL dildo can be both intimidating and painful for pegging newbies, so be conservative when choosing a size when you’re starting out on your pegging journey. You can always upgrade to a larger dildo later as you and your partner gain more experience!
TIP 4: Be patient and gentle.
Pegging is a journey, not a race. No matter how turned on you and your partner are, it’s important to take your time, engage in plenty of foreplay, and be slow, smooth, and gentle when it comes time for penetration. Your first attempt at pegging is not the time for power thrusting! Trust the process; you’ll get there when you’re both ready.
TIP 5: Talk about it
No, we don’t mean dirty talk (although you can use that too!) Communicate with your partner before, during, and after the fun to ensure safety and comfort for everyone. Discuss your expectations before you begin. Check in periodically during the act and ask if they want you to change anything about your technique. Talk to each other afterwards to determine if you’d like to explore pegging again. The more communication you have, the more joyful your sex life will be!
Don't forget the aftercare!
Your work isn't done once the pegging fun is over—a healthy pegging session requires a few actions afterwards to ensure that all parties are feeling their best, both physically and emotionally.
Physical aftercare focuses on cleaning up. Thoroughly wash all used sex toys and yourself to remove any remaining bacteria that could cause infection.
For emotional aftercare, reflect on the experience with your partner and discuss what they liked and didn’t like about it. Be sure to ask them how they’re feeling and if there’s anything you can do to help. Being on the receiving end of pegging can be quite vulnerable, so reassure your partner with words of affirmation and cuddling if they want it.
You may find after the play that the sexual act is not suitable for you or your partner, and that’s okay! There are plenty of other passionate play options on the menu. But if you’re really enjoying your first foray into the world of pegging, get excited, because there’s so much more to discover! Once you’re comfortable with the act itself, experiment with different positions, harnesses, and strap-ons, the options are endless. Just remember not to rush to the next level of pegging toys and exercises.